What to Expect After You Expected

There is no greater joy in life than the arrival of a new bouncing baby, right?

Well, not from personal experience, but this joy isn't exactly statistically supported in the way that this "bundle of joy" is a continual blessing in all of ourselves.

I do forewarn that this blog this week is based upon observations and not personal experience. I have not had a child and not expecting one any time soon. I feel, however, that many of my associates are either married and preparing in time to have a child, pregnant now, or having a chance to parent their own children.

Soon after the mother finds out that they are expecting, there begins a spontaneous explosions of plans to meet this angel-in-the-making's needs. There is, however, not so much emphasis between husband and wife to be able to make this adjustments between themselves. There are a lot of changes that occur once the baby is born. Typically, the father's work load increases by 37% and the mothers increase 64%, that is skyrocketing in intensity due to a loud, stinky, sleepless, helpless bundle of a blanket cuddle bug.

Is it worth it?

In my personal opinion, it sure is!

But it's time to combat those adjustments that may need to be made in order to be successful in maintain a satisfactory marriage.

Problem 1:

Agreement between husband and wife shift drastically. While the woman think that the agreement between them as husband and wife never have been higher, the husband views it differently. The husband feels that he is constantly under correction by the new mother while the new mother doesn't see issue.

Solution:

Mothers, this is up to you! Try not to become a new mother to your husband. Constantly strive your better listen to your husband and be willing to accept his advice. Do this before the child comes into the household. Remember, perfect practice equals perfect performance.

Problem 2:

Husbands frequently perceive that they are not longer appreciated or that there are no longer of interests.

Solution:

Mothers, make sure to show your love to your husband. Even though you have a new family member, it is important to maintain your love and affection for your husband. This is easier than you think it can be. Take moments to be tender with your child together; let your husband feel the baby kick, have him talk to the baby, let him change the babies diaper. Look for chance to lighten your husbands load (he is no doubt worker harder than before in order to fulfill his duties as a father.) Remember that it was your husband and you before the baby come along, keep that relationship growing.

Problem 3:

This relates to medical care. There are a lot of doctor appointments that go into having a baby.

Solution:

Mothers and fathers, when possible, should go to the doctor appointments together. This allows a chance for the husband to see the appointments as beneficial, and not so much an expensive output. Fathers, also be aware that there are a lot of hormonal changes that occur. Be aware that this doesn't not make your wife a bad person, but rather a biological change that requires patience. 

In this short review, we have looked over just a few problems and solutions that can occur in the adjustments of having a new baby. Above most, remember where the baby began. It began because a mother and father loved each other. Perpetuate that love first and far most, and if that love endures, the child will feel the needed love as well.

(Closing note: don't think I am discouraging families from having babies. Babies are such a blessing. It is just important to both mother and father to continue their relationship as husband and wife. Overall, a focus on this relationship is key. Have babies and continue to attend to your relationship is a couple.)